Inner South Family and Friends Carers Week Film Day Saturday 21 October 2017

You are invited to join Inner South Family and Friends for our Carers Week Film Afternoon on Saturday 21 October at the Palace Como Cinema, corner of Toorak Road and Chapel Street, South Yarra to enjoy the film Victoria & Abdul.

Victoria and Abdul

Queen Victoria strikes up an an unlikely friendship with a young Indian clerk named Abdul Karim.

The extraordinary true story of an unexpected friendship in the later years of Queen Victoria’s remarkable rule. When Abdul Karim, a young clerk, travels from India to participate in the Queen’s Golden Jubilee, he is surprised to find favor with the Queen herself. As the Queen questions the constrictions of her long-held position, the two forge an unlikely and devoted alliance with a loyalty to one another that her household and inner circle all attempt to destroy. As the friendship deepens, the Queen begins to see a changing world through new eyes and joyfully reclaims her humanity. Victoria and Abdul is directed by veteran filmmaker Stephen Frears, of High Fidelity, Dirty Pretty Things, The Queen, Tamara Drewe, Philomena, The Program, and Florence Foster Jenkins previously. The screenplay is written by Lee Hall; based on the book by Shrabani Basu.

We acknowledge the support of Carers Victoria in subsidising this event to celebrate National Carers Week 2017

 Bookings are essential by phone on 9076 4713 or email
Time:  to be advised; approximately 1pm for lunch in the foyer with film to follow.
Cost:  is to be advised subject to subsidy.

de Castella Run 2 Mend Minds

img_0642Penny and Judith jogging around the oval to the finish line

Penny, Judith, Judi and Molly (her dog) completed the 5km walk to raise funds for Monash Alfred Psychiatry Research Centre (MAPrc) on Sunday 28 August.  We were spurred on with an enthusiastic pep talk by Professor Jayashri Kulkarni, Director of MAPrc who is very fit and competes in the 10km run.

The competitors are a mix of very serious, fit athletes and those who enter for fun in fancy dress, with parents, children and babies in pushers.  We hope next year to encourage more ISFAF members to join us.  It’s a great atmosphere and you don’t have to be young and fit to do the 5km walk around the scenic Kew Boulevard course.

Donations to MAPrc can be made via website de Castella Run 2016 for Mental Health




de Castella Run 2 Mend Minds 28 August 2016

The annual de Castella run is a fund raising event for Monash Alfred Psychiatry Research Centre.  Several of our members have entered.  For more information see below.

Event Details

When: Sunday 28 August 2016

What: Three great running (or walking) events around the scenic Kew Boulevard to raise money for mental health research at MAPrc.

  1. Vision Personal Training 5km run/walk,
  2. Mizuno 10km run
  3. Nostra Homes 15km run

And don’t forget our wonderful  Run Ready Activity Program for kids ages 3.5 to 10 years
de Castella Run 2016 for Mental Health

Carers Week 16-22 October 2016

National Carers Week 2016
This year National Carers Week runs from 16–22 October.  For information about carer week events go to

You are invited to Inner South Family and Friends Carers Week Film Afternoon Saturday 22 October 2016 to see “Cafe Society” a Woody Allen film
To be held at the Como Cinema, Como Centre corner of Toorak Road and Chapel Street, South Yarra.   A light lunch will be available from 1pm.   Cost: pensioners $7 wage earners $12 (including lunch).   Booking is essential by 16 October 2016 on 9076 4713.
See film flyer here:



Inner South Family and Friends Dining Group Milanos Bistro, Brighton 10 July 2016

Judith, Judy and JudiJudith, Judy and Judi (it’s a popular name in our group) photographed at Milanos Bistro are members of Inner South Family and Friends.  Judi is the current convenor of the group and Judith and Judy have both served as chair of the group for many years.

The dining group has been meeting at different venues over the last twelve months and is attracting an increasing number of members.   It is an enjoyable, friendly social occasion where you can meet new carers and their family members.

Our next outing is planned for November, but we haven’t organised a date or venue as yet.  Please contact our office on 9076 4713 if you are interested in joining us or would like to suggest a reasonably priced venue in the Cities of Port Phillip, Stonnington or Glen Eira.

Carers Speak about How they Cope with Mental Illness in the Family


This ‘Balanced Life’, is not easy to achieve – you really have to work at it, but I often try to remember the words of a prominent carer, Ken Alexander who said: “Never think that spending massive amounts of time with your loved one will help”. Unfortunately it is not that simple!

Frank and I have six children between us – five boys and one girl. Three of the boys are on the Disability Support Pension. One of my boys suffers from schizophrenia and is in a wheelchair, another suffers from bipolar 2 disorder and one of Frank’s two sons has schizophrenia and obsessive compulsive disorder.

These mental health problems present ongoing concerns for both of us and some people ask us ‘how do you cope?’ and the answer is by having frequent holidays. We have had many wonderful holidays over the ten years we have been together. They include numerous cruises; Alaska, Mediterranean, Caribbean and we are going on a cruise to South America in April this year.

We also belong to a time-share holiday scheme and have stayed in some great places in many parts of the world for a reasonable rate; eg Malta, England, Spain, France and our ever-popular destination, Bali. Well you might say, it’s okay if you are wealthy! Obviously we are not poor but we are on a part pension. But if you cannot afford overseas holidays, please try to get away a few times a year to recharge your batteries. Go to another state or have a seaside holiday in your own state. Sometimes you may be entitled to a few days away – MIND has 4-day respite and recreation events early in May and late May/June2016. Contact MIND, Mark Buljat on 9674 6700, mobile 0405384221 and speak to them about what they can offer you. Mental Illness Fellowship also offer breaks – call Jacinta Pope or Fiorella Mendoza on 9784 6800 for specifics. It need not be an expensive affair. If we did not have these great holidays to look forward to Frank and I may not be able to cope with the every day problems that occur. It’s the constant demands on your mental energy that can really wear you down! If this starts to affect your health, in the long run you will not be any use to anybody, so it is most important to look after yourself. Some carers are so caught up in the problems of their mentally ill loved ones they forget about their own needs; also the needs of the rest of their family. Frank and I work towards the day when we won’t be here and know that whilst our loved ones will miss us, we have tried to make them as independent as possible

I also believe that belonging to a group of people who have like-minded problems, talking with them in a safe environment and listening to interesting speakers on this topic can be very beneficial over time. I am proud of the group I belong to – ‘Inner South Family and Friends Support Group’. We have been going for 25 years and have over 200 members. In that time we have been very active and have been on many government committees concerning mental health and had input from a carer’s perspective; something that is often overlooked!


Judy and Frank in Bali 2015

Judy and Frank in the Caribbean 2015

Judy and Frank in the Caribbean 2015

Frank and Judy Carroll
16 February 2016